The energy drink

We all have more energy than we think we have. We all are a lot more stronger than we believe. Only problem is this extra energy or strength is tightly packed in a container and kept hidden within ourselves.Like air-tight it is a thought-tight package. We don’t know that we have it until there is a need.

When we face a problem, we initially struggle. We get confused . We struggle hard with all the energy we think we have to overcome it. Most problems will get solved at this stage. But at times we realize that this is not enough. Everything looks big. We feel weak. As a result , anything and everything will shake us, irritate us, make us angry ,make us feel helpless .We never search for that extra energy pack,because we are too busy shouting, crying , shutting ourselves down, we don’t realize we have it.

Like any other container, this energy container of ours needs an opener. And this opener varies from individual to individual. For some people, all they need is some assurance from loved ones, for others a prayer can help. For me both works. Either B or my amma have to talk to me calmly saying that I can handle this situation . When it comes to prayer only thing is  there are some conditions(for me). Accusing or shouting prayers won’t work. ‘Why me?’ kind of prayers can never find that package. After all the yelling and shouting,my prayer reaches a stage where instead of asking a solution for the problem I ask for strength to handle the problem .That’s it. The package opens!

Whether I solve the problem or not, I get another chance to fight with full energy. That matters a lot!

 

 

The art of saying “I Don’t Know”

Few days back, during lunch time we were discussing about the sentence “I don’t know”. How people take it when someone says I don’t know or how difficult is it for someone to say I don’t know.

When I started working, for few days I had no work at all. And when I got some work ,many things were new . When a senior person asked me some question I said I don’t know how to do it. The response was such that I decided never to say I don’t know, even though I don’t know. Everytime some question came to my mind I had another question attached to it- Is it a very stupid question.

So when we were discussing about this, we were thinking what the problem is. May be ‘I don’t know’ is considered as ‘stupidity’ . May be people judge too quickly. And the problem is it shows up in their response. Many time I have felt that when you say I don’t know and ask people to explain, the response will not be clear. You will still be in ‘I don’t know’ state after the conversation. Sometimes even worse, you will feel bad about yourself  and next time you won’t feel all that comfortable to say ‘I don’t know’.

To workaround , when I had questions I started the conversation like this

“Hello..  may be this question is very stupid,but could you please explain how y works”

So the idea here is to give enough warning to the opposite person  that a question which might sound stupid to you is going to come next. Be ready to handle it in a nicer way dear! 🙄 🙄 😀

On the other side, just because someone thinks that you are stupid does not make you stupid. Nobody is stupid in this world.What you know the other person may not be knowing . In exactly the same way, what he/she knows you may not know. Accept it.Don’t stop asking just because someone is not ready to explain it.

I have few people in my team to whom you can ask any doubt. Never ever you will feel that your question is silly. I don’t know if they are judging me by my questions but the point is whether or not they judge , it never shows up in their response which makes me feel comfortable.A big thanks to all of them who have helped me to grow!

 

Beat the Heat

OK Children.Now I will share some awesome tips to beat the summer heat. Listen carefully.

Enthu guy from the audience:- Hello Hello Stop! Who asked you to give us free tips??

Huh! Who has to ask. Boss Half of my name is Summer. I am super qualified to give summer tips. And these are all tested OK tips. Please Listen.

The first one, is, ‘Spend time with Kids’. Now you should be careful when you select the kids. If you select anyone above 4 years they will call you “Aunty/Uncle” and that’s not cool. That’s the opposite of cool. That is like sun stopping by earth and doing gangnam style dance on your head. Not cool.Play with small kids. Ask them to tell stories in their mazhalai(baby talk) voice. The cute thing about their stories is they will include the same characters from your story which you had told them a day back and for an hour they just keep on adding characters and the story will end with some great moral like ” summerscript you are my thotho kutti(puppy in tamil baby language) or I am your kaakaa kutti(baby crow) . But once this activity starts you cannot stop it unless the story teller falls asleep in a magic way.

Second one is, go out at 1030 PM, get an icecream and start eating. What’s so cool about it you may ask. Don’t eat it like a boring adult. Let it stain your clothes. Let it  melt and drip. At the end flash a wide grin at your staring husband. Believe me you feel so cool!!

Third one is some serious stuff. Take bath only when the sun is not visible. If you could not, and if it’s past 10 AM, then open the hot water tap and take bath. The water from your storage heater is much much cooler than the one coming from the overhead tank.

Open your fridge, put your head inside the veg basket and pretend search for veggies for a longgg time.

Watch popular hollywood movies  dubbed in your mother tongue. One hour of guaranteed laughter.

Drink rosemilk,Nannari sarbath, lemon juice and eat lot of yellow yellow mangoes. (What! I told you this is a serious talk full of genuine tips)

Stay cool guys! Agni nakshatram is not far, follow these and stay cool!

 

 

 

Life is an experiment..

Aim:– To waste everyone’s precious time.

Things Required:- A problem in your life, a fb account, some good souls around you, 3 egg dosas, a dog and a traffic signal

Procedure :-  Sit idle. If you are lucky unlucky enough problems will find you out and reach you automatically.

Inference:-

We can divide it into 3 stages.

Stage 1 :-

1. You are worried.

2. Happy songs cheer you up.

3. You believe that in life after a bad phase there WILL be a good phase and you decide to wait for this bad phase to get over soon.

4. You believe you are strong enough to handle it.

5. You see a lot of inspiring messages on FB (not applicable all the time) and it gives you new hope. At this stage even a traffic signal changing from red to green gives a new meaning in your life.

6. You happily stuff 3 egg dosas and go to office and feel high and sleepy.

Stage 2:-

1.You are worried.

2. Good music cheers you up.

3. You believe that in life after a bad phase there WILL be a good phase but in your case ALONE the bad phase is extending little longer than expected.

4. You reach out to your friends and they say “Everything will be ok soon” .It calms you down.

5. You pray for strength to handle it.

6. You read FB messages hoping that it would cheer you up (but only the opposite is happening).You are unable to differentiate between red and amber in traffic signal.

6. You happily stuff 3 egg dosas and go to office and feel high and sleepy.

Stage 3:-

1. You are silent.

2. Good music only makes you cry.

3. Is there anything called “good” phase in life?

4. When your friends advise you that “Everything will be alright soon”, your mind argues with every single piece of advice you get. Your heart goes and hides somewhere deep inside that all good words from your friends fail to reach it.

5. You walk like a zombie , go to office, do nothing and come back home and do nothing.

6. Its been days since you checked FB and your bus waits in the same signal 3 times.

7. You see a dog sleeping in the middle of the road and notice that no vehicle is honking at it.Instead they all just take a turn and pass through the sides.Suddenly you understand the meaning of your life. You Believe that you are strong enough to handle this.You switch on all the lights and your heart feels the brightness. You remember your good friend going through a rough phase , call him up and explain him how to make Bisi bela bath.Before hanging up you tell him that “Be strong! Good times are not far! ” in bold.

8. You happily stuff 3 egg dosas and go to office and feel high and sleepy and happy.

Conclusion:-

1.Only few people in this world have the ability to make sure that their eating habits never get affected by their problems,no matter how big the problem is! 😀

2.It is possible to waste someone else’s time by doing pointless experiments 👿

3.On a serious note, you need friends in your life. They may not be able to solve your problems, they may not be able to give you a meaningful advice.But they have this power to calm you down just by listening to your problems.

 

P.S:- Work is hectic and there are so many things going on in life.So I am not updating my blog regularly.But I am totally ok. Love you all 🙂